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Strength In Weakness

“The only person I’m trying to be better than is the person I was yesterday.”


 

Yesterday I stopped at Biggby for a coffee treat after my husband’s follow up doctor’s appointment.
This was my cup cozy message.

My husband had a serious car accident on Tuesday, requiring an ambulance ride to the hospital in a neck brace.

Praise God he is ok with no internal injuries, no broken bones, no head injury. He does have back and neck pain from whiplash. And, he has some muscle pain in his braking pedal leg.

I’m well aware and don’t need to be reminded of how thankful I need to be that this wasn’t worse.

I cleaned out our oh so likely totaled van Tuesday afternoon.

Our van debris picked up off the street by….someone. I found this when I went to gather our personal belongs and our new mailbox post out of the van later Tuesday.

Believe me.

I need no reminders.

This is the least alarming post accident photo. It says enough.

I don’t know how they got my husband safely out of the van. The driver’s side door barely opens. The windshield is bowed and is not actually in the window frame. The van body shape is no longer a rectangle shape, more like a parallelogram,trapezoid or rhombus. Not that I got the tape measure out and analyzed angles or anything. I mean, it’s not like I use geometry in my every day life, right? <insert sarcastic but healing humor here>

For the 48+ hours after the accident we’ve been in a literal brain fog, for two different reasons. His fog because of the literal accident, mine because of his accident and the realization of what worse could have looked like.

It was enough that I got called to the scene of the accident and where the fog began to crowd my peripheral vision. It’s where I began to pretend I was strong. A fireman asked me if I was ok when I climbed out of the ambulance where hubby was waiting for me with the police and EMT’s. I said “I will be. I have to be. Yes. I’m ok.” and tried to convince myself that I’d be strong.

In the ER my mother in law was talking about how strong I was, how much peace was in my countenance. Inside I was thinking “What is she talking about? I can barely think.” It was an out of body experience. A tunnel visioned fog with no peripheral vision. I could only tunnel in on one minute at a time.

Inside my head and hurting heart was turmoil, not peace.

On Tuesday we took “things” minute by minute as we ticked through the day…neck brace, ambulance ride, traffic citation, calling family, employment, and our pastor, CT scans and X-rays, and the results of those. Getting pain meds filled, coming home to comfort children, more phone calls to family, follow up doctors’ appointments made, cleaning out the van, and answering messages and offers of help.

Fog.

Tick-tock…minute by minute.

Once home, my focus was only on making sure my husband was ok, and making sure my children were ok.

None of us were ok. Yet we were.

We were home together, we were on the phone with our oldest in the Boston area.

There was some laughter. We did crack jokes.

We were <mostly> ok.


Wednesday we took it hour by hour as emotions began to flood and we left room for processing events and comforting each other, planning, insurance calls, finishing our taxes believe it or not, answering more messages, the list of things to do got long but things were being checked off in spite of the continued, but slowly dissipating fog. Hour by hour…


 

Thursday the day formed into compartmentalized sections. I could think a little more ahead and make plans. I even could begin to think about Friday and Saturday.

“Do I have a show Saturday? I wasn’t sure. I should find out. I should begin to pull stuff together if I do.”

The Thursday morning doctor’s appointment brought some reassuring and good news results! Yay! I brought hubby to work to teach his class (poor guy!), stopped for coffee, did some mental health processing, and finally had a good cry alone in the Biggby parking lot. We had to reschedule pick up of rental car, and I had to be home to clean up our bedroom for a mattress delivery that was actually scheduled two weeks ago! (GOD!), take care of more things, and go to our second follow up appointment. I don’t mess around with getting those health and healing affairs in order, even in fog and fatigue.

I intended to come home, make said new bed and fall into it after that second appointment.

But our chickens had gotten naughty and created a new plan. And that was God too. It was therapy to go enjoy the fresh air and their antics, and I’m thankful for that. I also enjoyed an unplanned visit from a sweet friend who dropped off dinner, which I also didn’t know I really needed (more God!), and I enjoyed a two mile walk listening to peeper frogs and singing birds.

By Thursday night the fog was lifting. I could feel strength returning in the ending day, in spite of fatigue. And I know the fog lifting is from the prayers of others.


Friday morning I awoke on my new mattress, having slept like a rock, and finally not quite so tired. I’d dreamed about chicken antics, some of them featherless and looking rough.

Kind of like how I had been since Tuesday.

After my good cry alone in a Biggby parking lot.

Every day, I’m a bit better person than the day before.

Every day we’re a bit stronger as a family.

Every day, my sweet husband has healed a little more.

We may look rough. We may feel rough. But every day is a bit better than the day before.

And it had only been a little more than 72 hours.

We know.

This could have been so much more.


Praising God for protection, healing, and for where we are.

Praising Him for His strength in each new day.

Praising Him that I only need to be better than I was yesterday.

Blessings,

Deb

2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

Five Organizations To Donate Hair

My 13 year old daughter, who we call Missy E on social media, announced to me over the weekend that she thinks she would like to cut her hair and donate it. She donated her hair last when she was about 8 years old. She cried once her hair was actually cut. It ended up much shorter than she realized it would be in her mind’s eye.

Over the last five years, she has allowed it to grow back, and it Is now below her waist.

She has been having it trimmed only a couple of times each year. It is thick enough that even at nine years old, she was breaking elastics and barrettes, and could barely hold her pony tail in her hand. Now that we use Lilla Rose hair accessories, her pony tail is sized for a medium flexi clip, and she can use an extra large to contain a bun, although she prefers hair sticks-even a single one works. She is getting tired of the maintenance, however, and the length of time it takes to keep her hair neat each day. She also thinks she’d like to add bangs to her hair style.

Today we’re looking into the organizations that accept hair donations and seeing what the requirements are for each organization before we decide where we will send it when it is cut later next week. My list is not meant to be exhaustive, and information is taken off each website with a link back to that site. If you decide to donate hair, please do your own research into the background of each organization to determine if the organization is where you want your donation to go.

1. Children With Hair Loss

The mission of this 501c3 organization is “Children With Hair Loss is a 501 (c) 3 non-profit organization that provides human hair replacements at no cost to children and young adults facing medically-related hair loss.”

  • From the History section of the website on who the organization serves: “Originally, CWHL’s focus was on children fighting cancer, until we found out that there were a lot of other reasons why children lost hair including Alopecia, burns, Trichotillomania and other rare diseases and disorders. To this day, Children With Hair Loss has never charged a child. Currently, we provide a customized human hair replacement and care kit to over 300 children a year!”
  • Everything a child receives is FREE, and recipients are eligible to receive a new hair replacement once a year until age 21!
  • Some of their requirements for hair donation include: “Hair must be a minimum of 8 inches, Clean, Dry, and in a Ponytail or Braid.”
  • Gray hair is accepted, as is chemically treated hair in good condition, however, non-chemically treated hair is preferred.

Children With Hair Loss is a Michigan based organization. Donations can be made to Children With Hair Loss
12776 Dixie Hwy
South Rockwood, MI 48179
734-379-4400

A financial donation for wig assembly is also recommended.

2.Wigs for Kids 

The mission of Wigs for Kids is “Wigs for Kids is a cooperative effort among Certified Cosmetic Therapists throughout North America who share a common goal. “Children shouldn’t have to worry about how they look, especially when they’re in the middle of a health crisis,” says Jeffrey Paul. “We want to give these kids the opportunity to feel good about themselves again.””

Who is served:

  • Individuals who are 18 years of age or younger
  • Experiencing hair loss due to medical reasons including of chemotherapy, radiation therapy, alopecia, trichotillomania, burns and more
  • Referred by a medical professional

Directions and qualification for how to make a hair donation: 

Directions for hair donation are pretty specific from the website: To donate:

  1. Make sure hair is a minimum of 12 inches for proper hair donation length. Pull curly hair straight for a more accurate measurement.
  2. Hair must be clean and dry. Wet hair will mold in shipping and will be thrown away.
  3. Hair cannot be permed, color-treated, or highlighted. Temporary coloring or highlights that wash out are acceptable but must be completely washed out before cutting. Gray hair is accepted.
  4. Tie hair into at least four sections (six are even better) around the head for a more generous donation. Hair that is pulled into one ponytail or braid results in a loss of up to four inches of hair. To do so:
  5. Make a center part
  6. Starting from this center part, part the hair over the top of each ear. This will create four sections of hair
  7. To create four ponytails,
    ~Tie the hair in front of each ear into ponytails, and then tie the hair behind each ear into ponytails.
    ~Make sure each ponytail or braid is tightly secured. Hair that is loosely wrapped tends to become loose when shipped, making it unusable. PLEASE be sure hair is tight and secured with several rubber bands 2-3 inches apart.
    ~Cut hair above rubber band
  8. Wrap ALL ponytails in one (1) piece of tissue paper and seal in a  Ziploc bag.
  9. Mail the hair in a sealed envelope or a small shipping box (special containers or insurance are not necessary)
    A financial donation with hair donation is also recommended/requested.
  10. Wigs for Kids address is in Ohio. It has been serving children for 30+ years.
    Wigs for Kids — Hair Donations,
    24231 Center Ridge Road,
    Westlake, Ohio 44145

3. Wigs 4 Kids:

This is a Michigan based organization, and it has served children in Michigan for 14 years. It is not the same organization as Wigs For Kids. Be sure to research either organization more thoroughly if you have concerns about where you are sending your hair and/or who it will be serving.

Their vision is to “Our vision has lead us to become a leading Wellness Center in Michigan where families of children diagnosed with short-or-long term hair loss can receive help at no charge, while also providing allied health services, educational and professional guidance. Through these efforts, Wigs 4 Kids is committed to improve a child’s quality of life by helping them deal with the appearance-related side effects of treatment.

Who is serviced: “Wigs 4 Kids services children throughout Michigan between the ages of 3 through 18 at no cost to them or their families. The majority of the kids we serve have cancer, although we assist children with other forms of hair loss. “

How to donate:
We accept 10” minimum hair length (from scalp to end), however longer lengths are appreciated. We will also take 7-9 inches to make a boy’s wig or a short wig for a girl.

  1. Hair needs to be clean, and thoroughly dry. Please bundle hair in a ponytail or braid before having it cut. After securing the hair, have it cut 1 inch ABOVE the rubber band to keep the strands bundled together – this is inclusive of the 10 inches. Once it has been cut please place in a plastic bag such as a Ziploc.
  2. Layered hair is acceptable and may be divided into multiple ponytails and then cut.
  3. Hair may not be colored, chemically treated (if unsure, ask your stylist), or more than 10% gray.
  4. You may pull curly hair straight to measure the minimum 10”.
  5. Wigs 4 Kids accepts hair from all ages and all countries.
  6. Hair that was cut years ago or swept off the floor is not usable.
  7. Wigs 4 Kids does accept new human or synthetic wigs and extensions.
  8. PLEASE NOTE: Anyone may cut your hair as long as the above guidelines are followed.
  9. Go Green Salon, located inside Wigs 4 Kids, offers a consultation, haircut & style for a fee to those wishing to donate their hair. 50% of the proceeds from the fee goes back to Wigs 4 Kids. For more information, call 586-772-6656.
  10. Please complete a hair donation form to send in with your hair to
    Wigs 4 Kids
    ,  30126 Harper Avenue, St. Clair Shores, MI 48082. We always appreciate the opportunity to acknowledge our hair donors. The form can be included at the same time you send the hair.

4. Pantene:

  1. Pantene has partnered with American Cancer Society. It services women battling with cancer.
  2. Pantene has a minimum for 8 inches of hair donates, 5% GRAY, AND NO use of chemicals, bleaches or dyes may be used on hair.
  3. You can help either by providing 8 inches of hair or donate $8.
  4. Pantene Beautiful Lengths
    Attn: 192-123
    806 SE 18th Ave.
    Grand Rapids, MN 55744

5. Locks of Love: Locks of Love is a public non-profit organization that provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children in the United States and Canada under age 21 suffering from long-term medical hair loss from any diagnosis. Most children have alopecia areata. The children receive hair prostheses free of charge.

Guidelines For Acceptable Donations
  1. Hair that is colored (Unless bleached first) or permed is acceptable.
  2. Hair cut years ago is usable if it has been stored in a ponytail or braid.
  3. Hair that has been bleached (usually this refers to highlighted hair) is not usable. If unsure, ask your stylist. We are not able to accept bleached hair due to a chemical reaction that occurs during the manufacturing process. **If the hair was bleached years ago and has completely grown out it is fine to donate.
  4. Hair that is swept off of the floor is not usable because it is not bundled in a ponytail or braid.
  5. Hair that is shaved off and not in a ponytail or braid is not usable. If shaving your head, first divide hair into multiple ponytails to cut off.
  6. We cannot accept dreadlocks. Our manufacturer is not able to use them in our children’s hairpieces. We also cannot accept wigs, falls, hair extensions or synthetic hair.
  7. Layered hair is acceptable if the longest layer is 10 inches.
  8. Layered hair may be divided into multiple ponytails.
  9. Curly hair may be pulled straight to measure the minimum 10 inches.
  10. 10 inches measured tip to tip is the minimum length needed for a hairpiece.
  11. Shorter hair will be separated from the ponytails and gray hair are sold to offset the manufacturing costs.

How to get involved or where to send a hair donation:
Locks of Love, 234 Southern Blvd. West Palm Beach, FL 33405-2701


Have you or a loved one ever donated hair?

If so, where did you donate?

Tell me in the comments! 

Blessings this chilly April week!

Deb

This post is also featured on my Sassy Direct listing. 

Black Bean & Brown Rice Burgers with Spinach, Mushrooms, Bacon, and Cheese

We’re a pretty adventurous family when it comes to trying new recipes and new foods. We don’t mind spicy, we love vegetables, and we’re even okay with meatless options. We don’t subscribe to any one diet other than portion control, focus on protein and vegetables. We try keto, grain, dairy, and egg free recipes, Whole 30, Paleo diet, meatless recipes just because they sound good to us, believing any extreme diet is likely unhealthy, but they each have their good points. We’re up for most anything.

A little while back we went to a restaurant with my parents. Our youngest daughter, nine at the time, shared that she was tired of kids’ menu options that are boring and not particularly filling. She politely asked if she could try the adult menu. We said she could, but imagine our surprise when our nine year old opted to try spicy black bean burgers! That is definitely not something I would have tried with all the other options on a restaurant menu, nor would I have expected from a child! She tried them, though, and not only did she eat the entire burger and sides, but she loved spicy black bean burgers!


I’ve been traveling. My aunt just celebrated her 80th birthday, and my cousin was throwing her a surprise birthday brunch back in New England. One only turns 80 once, and I miss many celebrations because of the distance. I didn’t want to miss this milestone celebration!

My 80 year old aunt, cousins, brothers, and my son and his wife.

Plus, my niece is in Girl Scouts and she’s selling cookies. What better travel staple than Girl Scout cookies from my young niece! And my Lilla Rose bobby pins and hair band!


 

But, I’m chasing squirrels here…because I had been traveling, and because I’d left sick children who weren’t eating much, there isn’t much in the way of food in the house. While I was away the children and husband survived on a 16 quart pot of chicken noodle soup I’d prepared for the sickies before leaving, and there were lots of eggs from our chickens for the non sickies. Imagine four days in a row of chicken noodle soup and eggs. The family is quite bored with their food options! Yet, yesterday I had appointments, errands, and did I mention not much food in the house? I didn’t have time to prepare a fantastic meal last night.

I had a stash of cooked and frozen black beans, left over frozen rice….and staples in the freezer or pantry. I knew I had to be creative around the time limitations, but not make the family feel deprived.

I decided to make black bean burgers. I consulted with a few recipes before coming up with my own.  I topped them with a spinach, mushroom, bacon, cheese sauce because we had those ingredients too. The family thought they were great.


Black Bean & Brown Rice Burgers, LoveLeavingLegacy Style

  • 4 cups of soaked and cooked black beans
  • 4 cups of cooked brown rice
  • 2 green peppers diced
  • 1 large onion diced
  • 2 shredded carrots
  • 7 oz can diced chili peppers
  • minced garlic to taste
  • 2 beaten eggs
  • 2 heaping tablespoons chili powder
  • 2 heaping tablespoons cumin
  • 2 teaspoons of tabasco sauce
  • salt and pepper to taste
  • bread crumbs as needed

In the food processor blend the beans and rice. Mix in remaining ingredients except bread crumbs. Then, add bread crumbs a little at a time until the mixture holds a burger form. Form 8-12 burger patties on a broiling pan, and broil til crispy and brown on low broiling temperature.

While burgers are broiling, prepare the spinach, mushroom, bacon, and cheese sauce.


Spinach, Mushroom, Bacon, and Cheese Sauce

  • 1 large poly bag spinach (one that serves 10)
  • 1 large onion
  • minced garlic to taste
  • 4 8 oz packages of sliced portabella mushrooms (My family thinks I should have chopped these more finely.)
  • 12 oz package of turkey bacon
  • 8 oz non fat cream cheese
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/2 cup bread crumbs
  • 1 cup of grated parmesan cheese
  • 2 cups of shredded mozzarella cheese
  • pepper to taste

In a large pan, saute bacon, onions, and garlic. When bacon is nearly crispy, add mushrooms and saute until almost softened. Add spinach and saute until wilted and incorporates easily into the rest of the bacon/vegetable mixture. In the food processor, blend together remaining ingredients. Add to vegetable bacon mixture, and stir over low heat until melted and creamy.

Serve over Black Bean and Rice Burgers. Serves 8-10. Option: Serve with whole or halved cherry tomatoes on the side.


I love that spring fruits and vegetables are on sale again, and we loaded up on cantaloupe and berries at the grocery store. We served a cantaloupe cubed as a sweet side to our dinner last night.

As I said, my family raved, and they’ve asked me to make them again. Score one for Mom!

Maybe they were just grateful it wasn’t another chicken noodle soup night?

If you try our concoction, tell us what you think in the comments!

Blessings, 

Deb