On Being a Yes Mom, Part 2

From my last post: “I want to be a mom who says yes to reasonable requests and opportunities that work into our daily life.” and “What request can you say yes to today, even if it’s not ideal or perfect? On Monday, I’ll share an idea and an opportunity! Stay tuned!”

Three years ago this month, I said “Yes” to joining a wonderful company, Lilla Rose, offering me the opportunity to work my own business from home selling beautiful, comfortable, and affordable hair clips that I LOVE to wear!

Lillaversary to Me

July 24th, 2013, I signed up to be a Lilla Rose Independent Stylist

The opportunity included start up business supplies, product, no monthly quotas or recurring shipping, and no sponsoring requirements. It also included a free website and free priority shipping on the enrollment kit of my choice. I could hardly lose with that deal! My only regret is that I didn’t know that I would later wish I’d joined with the Fast Start package!

I love FREE shipping, don't you?

I love FREE shipping, don’t you? Disclaimer: Actual number of pieces in Fast Start kits may vary, but the retail value is $1,100.

What started as a low risk, discounted tool to teach my daughters to care for their hair has turned into a family friendly opportunity that also allows me to work with my children alongside me, training them up in the world of home based business and entrepreneurship, and incorporating real life experiences into their academics studies. We’re all learning a lot, and we are also allowed to sell our handmade items alongside our Lilla Rose products!

working with my children

workingwith children2

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Missy E and A-Grape are starting to do craft shows/festivals and Style Boutiques with Lady L and I too. It was a lot of fun for all of us to work one big festival last fall that earned enough for us rent a house in Gatlinburg, TN, and take a week long vacation. We have been so blessed by this business.


A Smoky Mountain hike wore us out! We worked hard for this vacation, and earned every ounce of fun! Work ethic pays off!

What I didn’t know when I joined, either, was the incredible amount of business support both from headquarters, and from our business groups. There are plenty of shared graphics and ideas and free trainings, with encouragement each step of the way. There is no cut throat competition, and the ideal of “Treat others as you want to be treated.” is paramount in this company from the owner down to the consultants. It’s an incredible blessing and way to learn business!



What other company’s owner wears this many hats and is this personable?


Celebrity John Dorsey takes photos with his Independent Stylist fans!

Cashier John

Cashier John checks out Independent Stylists during the Shopportunity.


Captain John, along with his lovely wife, at the helm of the Purple Party.


Wise guy, John? I have no idea…


Duffy boat tour guide John


Dunk booth John


Director of Stylist Traffic John


Would you like to say “YES!” to this still ground floor opportunity and join under ~6500 consultants in the United States? From July 18th beginning at 7 am PST/10 am EST  through July 31st at 11:59 pm PST, you can join with the same opportunity I was given three years ago: Free shipping on enrollment kits, free website, start up business supplies, product (amount depends on kit purchased), no monthly quotas or recurring shipping, and no sponsoring required. Base commission is 30%. Inventory is not required. You can work as little or as much as your family commitments allow.

Come stretch and learn new skills with me!

You can learn more about enrollment opportunity options by taking a few minutes to watch these videos. Basic party or show kit here:

and Fast start here.

What would the extra money from a low risk business opportunity help you and your family do? I’d love for you to enroll on my team! I hope you’ll say “YES!” Message me with questions on my Facebook fan page! 


Say YES!


Blessings from Yes Mom and Lilla Rose Independent Stylist, 


On Being A Yes Mom, Part 1

I want to be a mom who says yes to reasonable requests and opportunities that work into our daily life. It is so much easier to do in the summer time without as much of a school routine, although we do school year round.

A couple of nights ago, Missy E asked if she could get up early and make blueberry muffins for breakfast. She has spent the last few years working alongside me in the kitchen, but has only done a little cooking independently. She checked to see if we had all the ingredients we needed, and we discussed the recipe. She ground the wheat into flour before she went to bed so as not to awaken anyone early. I said “Yes!” to her making very homemade blueberry muffins!

I had pulled an all nighter the night before, so I went to sleep as soon as we finished discussing her blueberry muffin plan, and I was sleeping hard when I heard before 7 am “Mom! There’s a fire!” Nothing says “Good morning” like being jarred awake by the tone of concern and the word “fire.”

Dr. P had tackled our enormous burn pile of brush the entire day before, but it had rained much of the night. Still, I was sure she meant the burn pile was on fire. I ran to the deck in search of flames outside, ordering her to grab the phone in case I needed to dial 911. She said “No, Mom. Over here.” And she pointed to the kitchen. She explained that she had started preheating the oven, but nothing was baking yet. She’d heard a buzzing sound while she was filling muffin tins, and then noted a flame on the heating element in the oven. Sure enough, the heating element had caught fire.

I shut off the oven, and still in a sleep fog just stared at the flame. After a few seconds I realized that it would probably be wise to shut the oven door, and then the flame went out. Dr. P found a piece of foil on the oven heating element and cleaned up a few spills on the oven floor. He turned the oven back on, but it would only preheat to 345º, and it took quite a long time to even get to that temperature. Missy E baked her muffins, but I have a feeling Dr. P should have taken her and her muffin batter to Grandma’s to finish up. I suspect we need a new stove.

Later, once I’d had coffee, we enjoyed her retelling of her problems and her use of problem solving skills to find solutions. Dr. P told me that while mixing the batter, Missy E had run out of canola oil. She had asked him if it would be okay to use olive oil to make up the difference. She had thought through a solution to her problem, and only needed to verify that it was a good solution.

Missy E told me that the recipe called for honey, but there wasn’t enough in the cabinet. She pulled one of my cookbooks off the shelf and looked up substitutions for honey. The cookbook said to use granulated sugar and some water. We don’t use granulated sugar, and she didn’t realize that our granulated sucanat with honey would have worked. She re-consulted with the cookbook substitution chart and found that she could use brown sugar, or in our cabinet, brown sucanat. Again, she encountered problems, thought through solutions, and verified with a sound source.

She didn’t want to wake Mom unless it was an emergency. Flames in the oven constituted emergency, and Mom heard the plea for help even from a sound sleep! We’re thankful we were home when the oven malfunctioned!

Who knew she would face such challenges in her first independent spin with baking!? In spite of all her troubles, her muffins were delicious and we were blessed by her breakfast and dedication to making it.

Blueberry muffins (photo courtesy of pixabay.com

Blueberry muffins (photo courtesy of pixabay.com

I’m thankful I chose to be a “Yes Mom,” even if we have to replace our stove.

Rainboots, Umbrellas, and Puddle Stomping Yes Mom took no photos of her own. Thank you Pixabay.com.

Rainboots, Umbrellas, and Puddle Stomping
“Yes Mom” took no photos of her own. Thank you, Pixabay.com.

Later this same day, the children were squabbling. I sent them out to play. It was raining gently, and they were reluctant to go out. A-Grape asked if they could use their umbrellas and stomp in puddles.

It was just raining, not a thunderstorm, and it was warm out. It felt good to say “Yes!” It was fun to watch from the window, too. Maybe next time I’ll be able to join their puddle stomping!

What request can you say yes to today, even if it’s not ideal or perfect?

On Monday, I’ll share an idea and an opportunity! Stay tuned!


From Yes Mom, Deb

Blessings During Opposition

When I was studying to be a nurse, I was stroked and confidence in me was expressed. I was told that I was going to be good at all I tried. Nobody ever said “You’re going to hurt someone!” Frankly, that I could have caused serious harm with one mistake as a practicing registered nurse is not an overstatement! I was administering chemotherapy, blood products, and IV pain medications to cancer patients! One fast push of an IV chemo drug, and I could have seriously burned someone’s blood vessels and surrounding tissue. With one fast push of a narcotic, I could have stopped someone’s breathing! Lives were at stake if I made a mistake, and no one ever expressed doubt in my abilities.

Nobody ever told my husband he’d be a lousy college professor and researcher. In fact, when he graduated, his former professors, some now his colleagues, had fairly high expectations for his future. He is sought after by the media as a specialist in his field.  He is sought after as a speaker for subjects he does not even have a degree, but has taught himself and about which he sometimes writes. He is enough to be a church leader and teacher. Nobody told him he would be a failure at teaching other people’s children, or that he would not be preparing other people’s kids for the real world, or that he shouldn’t speak to the public about those other subjects.

In my last post about homeschooling and blessings, I wrote: “In hind sight, though, it was Kindergarten. I do wish we could have relaxed and enjoyed more. Kindergarten should be a joyous and fun filled year, not “rigorous.” I wish we had chosen to save that “rigor” for later, rather than doing spelling flash cards in the back seat of the realtor’s van as we house hunted for the second move in our new city.”

It was hard to relax when our decision for our children was suddenly under scrutiny and deemed certain for failure by others. We weren’t necessarily confident in our abilities to raise our sons, never mind teaching one of them! During the very early years of parenting, we had heard we were good, patient, “intentional” parents. After we made the decision to homeschool, some rhetoric and attitudes toward us changed.  We did not receive expressions of encouragement and confidence. Some people fell silent and wouldn’t bring up the subject of school, not even to ask “What are you learning? What is your favorite subject?” with our kids. Some told us they no longer considered us good parents. If those reactions didn’t feed insecurities, I don’t know what else would.

In the area where we’d be most investedour children and their future academic success and life preparedness-it was expected and expressed that there would be failure and long term negative consequences by my husband’s and my decision to homeschool our children. It’s (still) a rather stunning, illogical contrast expressed between predicted outcomes for my nursing career success or my husband’s career, and for the success of homeschooling our children. Especially since my nursing career lasted less than four years, and we’ve been homeschooling seventeen years! I have always been confused and hurt by this contrast.  Somehow, by teaching his own children, or allowing me to do so, my husband and I would not prepare our own children for the real world.

We’ve now graduated two wonderful young men. One of our sons graduated with college credits and has served on several short term missions trips. One has quickly earned certifications in his field–just a few months after graduating–and is earning money for his college education. Their employers tell them that they appreciate that they are self starters willing to learn, have good work ethic, and take initiative and responsibility.

Would they have learned this had they attended traditional school? Perhaps. Probably. That’s not really the point.

The point is that we certainly didn’t harm them or their futures by homeschooling, having successfully done so. But sadly, the negativity and discouraging sentiments are ones we still hear, in spite of these and other successes, and in spite of our dedication, faithfulness, proof of loyalty, and longevity to the pursuits.

We decided a long time ago that we would have to learn to be comfortable with the idea that we might never hear positive words from our naysayers. We’re proud of our children and our successes with them regardless of lack of affirmation by some. We’ve definitely had support, affirmation, and help from many, many others. We’ll always be thankful for that!

A blessing in the discouragement is that we have learned lessons in fortitude, perseverance, and endurance in opposition.

We have not been disobedient children, dishonoring those who parented ahead of us.


Prayerful Obedience

We’ve obeyed what the Lord made clear to us after we prayed. As we were prepared by the Lord to hear His directions, we obeyed what His plans were for our family.

He has blessed our obedience.

We’re proud of our family. We’re proud of our service. We’re excited for our children’s futures.

May they honor the Lord in the way He leads them, too. And may we never disparage them or discourage them from doing so. 



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Lilla Rose Specials – July 2016